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Bisto

March 20, 2020, 13:48:31 pm Last Edit: March 20, 2020, 13:59:17 pm by Bisto
Imagine you had the opportunity to completely reboot your life (from tomorrow) within the parameters of your own current financial situation...I'm not interested in fine tuning or slight left turns, I'm talking about radical changes, pipe dreams, fantasies...but achievable ones...sensible answers only please...and no Political point scoring, propaganda or preaching .

what would you do?
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Bez

Move to Cornwall in a place overlooking the sea; with cliffs.

I even know which houses I'd go to....

I'd miss the convenience of London for gigs and family / friends etc. Mrs Bez may kill me after a short while - we'll find out as ther Covid-19 situation develops :o
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Jonners

Learn a trade, carpentry or stone masonry, or a building trade/creative
Take up cycling earlier
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Bisto

March 20, 2020, 15:39:10 pm #3 Last Edit: March 20, 2020, 15:53:59 pm by Bisto
Quote from: Jonners on March 20, 2020, 15:02:21 pmLearn a trade, carpentry or stone masonry, or a building trade/creative
Take up cycling earlier
Yeah, I often beat myself up about not doing that too. My Grandfather (who brought me up from birth virtually) was an industrial Carpenter and Pattern Maker, he also made furniture, toys and a crossbow which was considered too powerful and dangerous and was quickly destroyed after a single days fun, much to my childhood frustration.

I was discouraged by him from following in his footsteps as his working experience had been quite isolating but I wish I had, I'm sure I'd be a lot more content...and useful.
No good deed goes unpunished!

No amount of anxiety can change the future. No amount of regret can change the past.

Matt2112

March 20, 2020, 17:20:49 pm #4 Last Edit: March 20, 2020, 17:23:06 pm by Matt2112
1) Seriously work on all my original material, get it recorded in a professional studio, get a combo of musicians I know together and gig it...and see what happens.  But just having a set of it performed in public would be pretty much a dream come true. 

Phase 1 of that project is to clear out the man cave of disused baby stuff so I can use the home studio gear that's buried underneath. ::)

2) Try to learn to speak and read Greek to an intermediate/good level (as, in fact, I'm currently doing); pandemics notwithstanding, I am hoping to be able to hold a basic conversation by around August, which is/was earmarked for our jollies.
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Nïckslïkk2112

Carry on as (ab)normal.

I just need more time so I can.

  • Cycle More
  • Get back to learning the Electric Bass
  • Spend more time on my genealogical studies
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Bisto

Quote from: Nïckslïkk2112 on March 20, 2020, 17:55:43 pmCarry on as (ab)normal.

I just need more time so I can.

  • Cycle More
  • Get back to learning the Electric Bass
  • Spend more time on my genealogical studies
Read that as "Gynaecological studies"
No good deed goes unpunished!

No amount of anxiety can change the future. No amount of regret can change the past.

Nïckslïkk2112

Quote from: Bisto on March 20, 2020, 19:58:20 pmRead that as "Gynaecological studies"
I'm too old for that.
Legend in my own Mind


Slim

Nice idea. I'm not sure what the rules are .. if I could start again from my 20s for example I'd learn music theory and jazz properly instead of just being a hack, like I am now.

My career has been good to me, but I could certainly do without the stress and unpredictability. I should have been a programmer. I actually started my IT career as one, and I was a very good one, honestly a natural. But I thought being a system engineer had a bit more prestige and glamour, so I did that instead.

I don't know. I wish I could do something more creative like being a writer. The job I have is creative to a degree. Sometimes when I get to architect and develop I really enjoy it, it's absorbing like making something out of lego. But mostly it's fixing, upgrading, installing, assessing.

Echoing other people's thoughts about cycling .. I enjoyed cycling in my 20s. I cycled to work and back a lot in 2005-2008. But that time when I came back to Derby from London in 2002, then spent half my time on T-N-M-S in my mancave .. why didn't I think of going on long bike rides? A half decent bike is not expensive. OK there was no Strava, no Android phones with Google Maps and cycling apps, no GPS watches. But I could have counted the miles using a bike computer and put them in a spready. We could still have had a little cycling community here. Perhaps we did! I didn't notice it myself though.

All that time I had on my hands when I wasn't working. I'd kill for that sort of time to do long bike rides now. But nope, I mostly spent it on arguing with people that Hemispheres was better than Vapor Trails (it is, by the way), listening to 5 Live and exploring Asian porn sites, all in the splendid social isolation of my study.

The thing that's always in the back of my mind when I'm on my bike, after 60 or 70 miles, is the thought - how much longer am I going to be able to do this? Of course if I had taken it up in earnest in my early 40s instead of my mid 50s I'd probably have buggered my knees 15 years earlier.

zoony

It would definitely be living by the coast, preferably where I was born in Plymouth. It would be great not to be able to work, and just have plenty of free time to take my dog walks.

döm

I'd also love to live by a coast. Preferably the French Mediterreanean one!
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captainkurtz

I'd have fessed up to my parents earlier than 2005 that I already knew the girl I wanted to marry and saved them hundreds of miles up and down the M1 trying to palm me off to some other sap.
Anger is a gift.

Bisto

Quote from: captainkurtz on March 22, 2020, 13:01:49 pmI'd have fessed up to my parents earlier than 2005 that I already knew the girl I wanted to marry and saved them hundreds of miles up and down the M1 trying to palm me off to some other sap.
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No good deed goes unpunished!

No amount of anxiety can change the future. No amount of regret can change the past.

Richard_2112

Seeing as I'm only 32 I'd like to think I wouldn't need to start over as if there are any course corrections I'd need to make I'm young enough to ride it out, but for a long while during my 20s I often thought that the biggest mistake I'd ever made was returning to my hometown after university and that I should have stayed in Liverpool. That mostly stemmed from my first girlfriend as she'd moved to Bradford for her own university course, and as I'm all too aware now I should have chucked her within our first year together.

A big turning point that would have lead to a whole different life for me is if I'd read the signals from my first crush and got with her during my first year at university rather thank thinking she wasn't interested in me. In the end I'm glad that didn't happen cause it wouldn't have worked out and I'd have never met my fiance, but from time to time I wonder what could have been.
Over thinking, over analyzing separates the body from the mind. Withering my intuition, missing opportunities and I must feed my will to feel my moment drawing way outside the lines.